You are hardest on yourself

Everyone calls this high standards. Standards do not usually pick out one person, and yours pick you.

In short

“Harsh self-talk” is a self-worth pattern: a tendency that repeats, not a fixed fact about you. You reread your own email after sending it and find the one clumsy line.

What it looks like

You reread your own email after sending it and find the one clumsy line. You call it high standards; it works as a brake. That voice has plenty to say about you and almost nothing about anyone else. You would never speak to a friend in it. One experiment: make the critic show its proof — what exactly, when, said by whom. Held to that, most of it falls apart. Your eye for the weak spot, minus the cruelty, is what good editors are made of.

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MoonSignal describes patterns and tendencies for self-reflection. It does not predict events and is not a substitute for therapy, counseling, or medical advice.